
Our missed milestones are of the social, communication, and behaviorial flavors. Not a shock. This is the recipe for autism and I'm on my second batch! Lately, my son and I have been working in the speech area. I mix equal parts social, behaviorial ingredients with dashes of communication. He hasn't spoken any words yet, but he's attempted to! And, he's whipped up some sounds, added in some signs, and blended in some non-verbal cues. All of this leads to one tasty dish: Progess!
Here's what's on our menu:
We spend at least one hour each day engaging with each other, without distractions. This can be tricky with children who make no eye contact, don't share their space, and have limited interest in toys, but it's still doable. Start by using only your child's interests. Izaiah enjoys Mega-Blocks, a few plastic animals, a ball (okay, just the tag on the ball), and a couple of books. That's it, but it works. Introducing new stuff can be upsetting, so this is a good place to start.
I will sit down, get Izaiah's attention, and say, "let's play ball!" I also make the sign for ball. He wants the ball, but I don't let him have it until he makes the sign for ball or tries to say ball. I can get him to make 1/2 the sign for ball - I make the other half. You can see the sign here http://handspeak.com/word/index.php?dict=ba&signID=154 Sometimes he will say "buh, buh" when I'm lucky. I give in before crying happens or interest is lost. I also use lots of expression and excitement when even a half sign is made or part of the word is said. Great big smiles and tickles are good and so is saying "Wow! and Whoa!" Sometimes I can get him to say these sounds too!

He has a couple of favorite books and since he knows how they go, I will began reading (and signing) "Leopard, Giraffe....." then I will be silent and look as if I am about to say the next animal (which he knows is elephant), but I do not. Instead, I'm seeing if he will say it. And sure enough, he does try! "Elllllaaaa" he slowly says. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So many big, happy, cheers over that!! We've had a couple of repeats of this too, which is fabulous!
We also put away each toy before we take a new one out because this is a great behavior for kids to develop.
If you struggle introducing new toys like I do, I usually will show him the toy, put it down somewhere and ignore it. Most of the time, in a few days, he will pick it up and play with it. Then we have more toys to work with over time.
You can see that my boy enjoys mouthing objects. This is an empty tube of toothpaste which is one of his favorite mouthing objects.

I hope these are some easy tips that you can use in your own home. It's amazing how much just playing with our kids IS therapy!! Sometimes we just have to learn how to play with our kids. I hope you'll post your ideas too!
ReplyDeleteI don't see it as giving it. You know your child's ability, so you challenge but not past the edge of their limits. You find the right balance between him feeling competent and feeling challenged. If it is too easy, he will not learn to strive. If it is too hard, it leads to meltdown.
ReplyDeleteWhen Pamela was 4yo, the developmental pediatrician told us she may never talk, read, or write. We got the last laugh!
Yes. This is also one of the great benefits of homeschooling also - 'therapay' is really a lifestyle instead of something done in an office once/twice a week. It's incorporated into everything, all day long. I truly believe this is why my own kids ( and yours too!!) have thrived so much!!!
DeleteI am so very proud of Izaiah. I am so proud of you, Annie. I love your blogs.
ReplyDeleteThank you!!! We have been working so hard - at having fun!!!!! Izaiah is really doing well. Love ya!!
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